This post is about the ever-changing dynamics between black men and black women over the last 100 years.

Cheating is often framed as a desire for more: more sex, more excitement, more validation. But just as often, it’s a desire for out. A way to force an ending when someone doesn’t have the courage, clarity, or integrity to end it cleanly. That’s the part people avoid talking about. This piece is written to examine the reasons relationships so often end in infidelity.

This piece is about the grief that comes when you realize the person you thought you wanted was never aligned with who you actually are or who you’re willing to become.